Do you think that perhaps you or someone that you know could be suffering from BPD and you want to know more about what the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder might be? Listed below you will find the nine most common symptoms that most people tend to exhibit when they are suffering from this disorder.
One of the most common symptoms of BPD or Borderline Personality Disorder is the fear of being abandoned. This can be perceived as a fear of punishment from other people as well. This type of phobia often emerges during adolescence and often because of living in an environment that might have had parenting that was rejecting, abusive, unstable, negative and/or uninvolved. Then, if these parental behaviors end up being doubled with a divorce, the chances are high that the person will develop BPD in their adulthood.
Those who suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder will often suffer from recurrent episodes of extreme anger or even fury that comes up at very unexpected times or situations. These episodes of rage have their backbone in their abandonment fear that gets triggered each time they might sense a tiny hint, behavior, or gesture, from other people and is then perceived as some sort of sign of punishment or abandonment.
Rapid mood changes are also symptoms of BPD and even though it might not necessarily lead to a fury or anger episode, it can make it difficult to control their emotions.
Another very common symptom of BPD is the chronic sense of feeling empty or void. Some people who suffer from this refer to this feeling as an inner numbness. After a while, this state can become ongoing as well as stable and is used as a defensive response to the emotional pain, distress, depression, or anger they are feeling inside. This is how the brain tries to protect itself from going “crazy” by trying to numb all of the negative emotions the person is experiencing.
Self-destructive or self-harming behaviors are also common symptoms. These symptoms might be made up of overspending, binge eating, promiscuous behavior, and substance abuse. These types of behavior take on the role of numbing all the negative emotions or the emptiness they are feeling, but for only short-term and they end up causing different side effects and even more aggravation over the long-run.
This symptom consists of impulsive behaviors. These are behaviors that are made impulsively by doing things without weighing the consequences of their behavior. For instance behaviors like quitting a job, dropping out of school, or breaking off a relationship with family, friends, or other people close to them.
Relationships that are unstable are often common with those who suffer from BPD. Since fear of being abandoned is the central theme here, especially with close ones, this often leads to a lot of difficulties within relationships and often ends in breakups. The person who suffers from BPD dreads being abandoned and this then, in turn, can make them angry at a partner or spouse for the smallest and most irrelevant things, and this then will drive that person away, the very thing that they really want to avoid.
Those who suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder can also experience feelings of unstable or negative identity. This means that they often will have deprecating and negative feelings about themselves personally. This often stems from their adolescence when the home environment has failed to secure affection, love, and understanding all of which are vital for someone to have a supportive and positive self-attitude.
When a person’s relational and emotional needs were not met in childhood, those who suffer from BPD will tend to fall back upon past traumas in their lives and treat them like open wounds that require almost always constant attention. Even though there is a natural defense mechanism of a person’s psyche when they look back constantly it is only going to reinforce these past traumas and then nullify any opportunities there are to leave the past behind them and learn to focus on the present as well as the future.
Relate to These Symptoms?
If you find yourself recognizing yourself in any of these symptoms, the most important thing you can do is to try to intentionally shift your mental focus onto the present and your future. If you find this something difficult to do or too frustrating, you can’t give up because there really is no other way you can get around any of this. What will really help is to try and find real explanations for any traumas others may have caused you in the past. When you have an understanding about any past traumas will help in your healing and will help you not to construe any self-blaming attitudes.
It is also advisable that you seek professional help for yourself or for someone you might suspect is suffering from BPD. There is hope and it can be treated if you are willing to seek the right help and are willing to work at finding a way to heal.