The Need for a Cry

We often believe that the very worst and most immature thing to do might be to cry about our sorrows. In fact, the ability to go off for a while and have a very intense cry about how awful everything is is in fact a crucial bit of wisdom – and a very adult move as well. Being a crybaby isn’t just something children should be afraid of being called, it’s something every adult should be proud to remember about themselves.
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“One of the wisest things about young children is that they have no shame or compunction whatsoever about bursting into tears, perhaps because they have a more accurate and less pride-filled sense of their place in the world: they know they are extremely small beings in a hostile and unpredictable realm, that they can’t control much of what is happening around them, that their powers of understanding are limited and that there is a great deal to feel distressed, melancholy and confused about. Why not then, on a fairly regular basis, sometimes for only a few moments at a time, collapse into some highly salutary sobs at the sheer scale of the sorrow of being alive?…”


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Gabriella Marsh

Title animation produced in collaboration with

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40 thoughts on “The Need for a Cry”

  1. This channel is the shit. I've followed since day 1. Watch my reaction video to Adele's weightloss transformation(warnings to snowflakes! your feelings might be hurt)

  2. Researchers have proven what many caregivers have already figured out on their own: Sometimes there’s nothing like a good cry to make you feel better. While society often callously considers shedding tears to be a sign of weakness, it is a cathartic experience and highly evolved behavior.

    Crying is not only a human response to sorrow and frustration, it’s also a healthy one. It is a natural way to reduce stress that, if left unchecked, can have negative physical effects on the body, including increased risk of cardiovascular disease and other stress-related disorders. In addition to the physical benefits, research shows that 85 percent of women and 73 percent of men feel less sad and angry after shedding some tears.

  3. Adults cry. 😢 My beloved father died in agony from Parkinson's disease in 2017. I tried to save my father's life but there was no cure. I love my father more than anyone on earth, I grieve his death everyday. To make matters worse, the woman I wanted to marry me, my adopted family, and some of my closest friends all betrayed me in the same year that my father died. The story is long… Truth is sometimes stranger than fiction.

  4. Thank you!

    I was stuck on someone a few years ago and just couldn’t woo her. So one night I cried.

    I realized crying means you know life is overwhelming.

    I’ve read online that after crying your body has enzymes designed to cheer you up and I felt a lot better.

  5. I swear the day before this i was thinking exactly that all i needed to feel better after a shitty day is to cry it out. There was a great deal to cry about and i felt better afterwards and then this video. Amazing

  6. Is there a video a video about controlling your tears, to make one less likely to cry? I feel like I cry way too often for a 31 year old human.
    This channel is so insightful and helpful, keep em coming! 🙂

  7. I don't cry any more pretty much at all even when I get emotional.. I was watching TV last week and some sad moment made me cry and letting out them tears was so satisfying

  8. i've just cried for 4 hours this afternoon and now this video appears in my recommendation like WTF HOW COULD?! Thankyou school of life u r the most understanding channel ever im gonna cry again

  9. i've just cried for 4 hours this afternoon and now this video appears in my recommendation like WTF HOW COULD?! Thankyou school of life u r the most understanding channel ever im gonna cry again

  10. About a year ago I was depressed because I had no idea what I was doing with my life, and then on top of that my girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me. I felt like my life had no meaning or purpose and that the weight of the world was on my shoulders. One day I just couldn't hold it in anymore, and I broke down in front of my mom where I cried like a baby for a good 30 minutes to an hour. From that point on I was able to turn over a new leaf, and eventually I ended up exceeding expectations of myself.

  11. Great video. I think if you don't acknowledge yourself and your limits, then you'll often find that circumstances that push beyond those limits will sneak up on you, leading to potentially catastrophic results.

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