Choosing what to eat on a date might sound like a very trivial and inconsequential move but if a date is an audition for love, then food can play a subtle and significant role in communicating who we are and why we might be a suitable match.
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“Restaurants have traditionally enjoyed a crucial and privileged place in the history of dating, providing us with enough privacy to get to know one another and enough public scrutiny to help us feel safe as we do so. The food has largely been an excuse.
But what we decide to eat and drink together isn’t merely incidental to the real task of mutual understanding. It too is rich in psychological clues, communicating messages about who we are and what we might be like over a lifetime. How we order can in a minor key belong to the task of winning someone else over to our cause.”


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