Should We Play It Cool When We Like Someone?

We tend to be told, from a young age, that the very worst thing to do when we like someone is to seem too direct or keen. Showing our interest is, apparently, fatal to the chances of a relationship. But is playing it cool always so necessary? And are spontaneous desire and enthusiasm always so taboo? The School of Life puts forward an original theory of how to play things wisely at the start.
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“One of the paradoxes of the dating game is that we know that by coming across as enthusiastic at an early stage – if we ring them the next day, if we are open about how attractive we find them, if we suggest meeting them again very soon – we are putting ourselves at a high risk of disgusting the very person we would so like to get to know better…”


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